Wantrepreneurs and Conflicting Values

First I would like to say that with wisdom and years of being a raggadey mess, I believe you can visually see what people value aka the “staples” of their value system.

People walk their walk…not their talk. Watch them. Watch yourself.

Look around your own life, what do you see? What do you do and how do you do it? Those are your values.

I know what I want to value….I just dont.

I want discipline to be of value to me….but I’m consistently operating in chaos.

I want self compassion and acceptance to be of value to me…but I find that choking the life out of the real me is what I ACTUALLY do…to the point of social awkwardness.

See how you think that you have certain values just because you want to have them….but you are living another set of values?

As you become more aware of what you do and how you are doing it (things you value the most), answer this…

What pisses you off?

I mean really grinds your noodle?!!!!!

Things that irritate and aggravate your existence naturally creates values for you.

For example, I hate it when someone is trying to feel me out…like watch me or position themselves so that I can see them…wants my attention but won’t conmand it.

Meaning that I value people who are straight shooters…they just come and say what they need or want.

To be fair though, my resting bitch face is vicious. I am in my head alot and people don’t know if they should snap me out of it….I get it. Plus, I have been trying to protect myself from everything, because I’ve always felt vulnerable…my face was my first line of defense, lol!!!!

So to honor my value, I have to tell my face that we’ve decided we are no longer always in “protect April” mode.

I’m a wantrepreneur, not for the lack of great ideas. I want to be an entrepreneur because I value autonomy. I want value the act of creating something from nothing. I want value controlling your own earning potential.

I must really  value the security of a “real” job. I must also believe in someone elses’ business goals more than my own because I work in their company. I must also value what they pay me.

What you VALUE is how you live your life today. If you don’t like your life, examine your values and see what’s really going on there. We generally spend time saying what sounds good and excited by ideals.

Just because you believe in something doesn’t mean its how you live your life. It may just be a beautiful thought or comfortable fantasy.

What if you told someone you aspire to be like, what you really did all day? You would have to cut the shit, eliminate excuses and just run a fact list, void of feelings and emotions because your feelings don’t matter in this context.

What have you done all day and who have you been today, not WHY, just the facts ma’am.

What do you value and how is it manifesting in your life and the business that you want to build?

@ Not Me Im Perfect on IG and Twitter

All Wantrepreneurs Are Not Eventual Entrepreneurs







Some of us just ain’t gon’ make it there. Not because the desire is that there.

The main reason is that for some of us, it’s not that urgent.

I studied Project Management in college. When creating a process or product, its customary to make a list. More than likely, this list is long and unrealistic. This list is everything that you want the end result to be. They are called requirements. When you are writing this list, you are listing what is “required” to satisfy your desired result.

After you make your ridiculous requirements list, it is then prioritized into “must-haves” and “nice-to-haves”. This means that some things on your list are not going to happen.

Must -haves are non-negotiable. In their absence, what is being created will lack quality or functionality that it needs. You are building a car….wheels will have a huge impact on the car moving from point A to point B.

Nice-to-haves are features and functions, that if you left them out, the final product will still perform satisfactorily. You are building a car…a DVD player won’t have any bearing on the car moving from point A to point B. It just would be nice to have should you have 5 children behind you 🙂

So now we get to the question…

Is an entrepreneurial path a “must-have” or a “nice-to-have” for you?

Most people that I know seem to have an ethereal connection to entrepreneurship.

It seems like a fantasy to them. So they treat it that way.

People bring ideas to me all the time. Although I have never had a successful business, most people know that I study entrepreneurship and small business.

They’ll come to me and say, “I have an idea”. Then they will go on to tell me what they are planning to do.

I throw in my two cents because I been around a few blocks and know a few things.

Then time passes…and nothing.

I secretly think that they want me to do all the research, set up websites, and run their social media. This I can do, but I won’t.


Because they aren’t serious and that’s their dream, not mine.

I digress.

They think that if they build it…customers will just come.

They think that they are going to build a successful business just to go sit on the beach somewhere.

They think that investors are going to just give them money.

They think they are going to be discovered.

They neglect most urgent issues in their personal lives, but they think they are going to build a business.

They just don’t want to work.

There’s more but I digress again.

It’s not romantic or ethereal but fantasies are.

The fantasy of entrepreneurship gets us all.

Some of us will continue to live in this fantasy because the thought of the thing is enough.

The rest of us will just get to work, keep working, keep showing up and do it all again tomorrow.

@Not Me I’m Perfect on IG and Twitter.