Were You “Born” An Entrepreneur?

Alot of entrepreneur stories start off pretty routine. They do college, get a job, hate the job then turn to entrepreneurship. Ok, so this is not the case all the time but its a trend worth noting. 🙂

Some would say they were not “born” entrepreneurs.

My plan was to be an entrepreneur. That plan lasted all of five minutes because by 20, I was pregnant. I needed a job.

So I got a job.

Years of poverty would ascend upon me so I put my entrepreneurial aspirations in my front pocket. You know how you put something in your pocket and you keep tapping it to make sure its still there? Yes, it was like that.

Every so often, I would take it out, smell it, give it a big hug, then put it back in my pocket. Then I went to work….on someone elses’ mission. In every town hall meeting at every company I have worked for, I hear how well the company is doing. Their goals, their mission, their growth. I want to be psyched but usually I default to, “How can I build a company this size to have similar impact on so many lives? I had no idea so I got up and went into work the next day over and over for the last 20 years or so.

Does this mean I wasn’t “born” an entrepreneur?

Well, I don’t think so.

There are so many factors that will determine if you actually believe in the viability of your goals and dreams.

I have heard plenty of stories of how this person has NEVER worked for anyone else EVER. At first, I could compare myself to them. Then, I would feel bad that I didn’t have the balls, the money or the mental mindset to build a business 18 years ago.

Here’s what I hate to admit…I wasn’t there yet. It wasn’t the right time.

I wasn’t just broke. I was broken. I wasn’t just depressed, I was hopeless. I wasn’t just lost, I was in a violent abyss.

There was so much inner work to do. It was astounding how much of a wounded animal I was. Building a business? Maybe if I learned how to compartmentalize. Cry and scream at night and wake up and pretend to be ok all day….while working on my writing and business. I’m not that good. Everything affects everything that affects everything in my life.

That inability to silo problems in one area in order to make things better in another area really sidelined me. However, I learned that its totally human. Furthermore, it is also NOT an excuse.

I made the decision to start one area of my life. I started with going back to school to finish my degree. I didn’t think that it would change my life much. Being a college graduate was a lifelong goal for me. I was 12 when it became a “thing”. At 30, I needed to do this. It changed my life in a magnitude of ways. With this one decision, I began to realize my true priorities. You can read about this journey in my book, “Mom, Wife, Online Student?” It will be available at the top of 2018.

Anyway, I talk about that journey with inner work and school to say that although I feel like I was born to build a business, it wasn’t the time then. I would have punched you in the mouth if you told me 15 years ago that I wasn’t ready. I wanted it so bad.

The fact that I wasn’t ready had nothing to do with my circumstances. If you are in a shit storm, you can start your business and make it work. I could have. The only reason why I didn’t is simply because it wasn’t time…for me.

Just don’t go on believing that if your life isn’t perfect that you can’t work on your ideas or that because you have a job that you weren’t “born” to be an entrepreneur. You just have to make a decision as to whether the time is NOW or is there some other thing that needs to come first. You also have to decide how bad you really want it.

Although I didn’t come out the womb kicking, screaming and selling my book to the doctor….I was born an entrepreneur. I just had to take a few “detours”. If your goal is to build and grow a business, don’t judge your journey and worry about whose doing what right now. Stay your course.